Joy in Our Every Day
I think one thing we forget to do as mom's is to take time for ourselves. I'll be the first one to admit that life since motherhood has been, more often than not, overwhelming. Especially with three so close in age. Though we have been extremely blessed to have so much live-in help since the twins came along, I still find myself sucked deep into the pit of "Mom Guilt" unable to make myself take time for...myself.
It got to the point where I was just sad. Sad that I had become someone totally different than I used to be. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE our children with every fiber of my being and even when going grocery shopping or running errands I couldn't wait to get home to them because I just missed them. But I was also missing "joy." Joy that was easily washed away when all three were wanting held at once, or the dog was needing fed, or the bathrooms were needing tended to. I had become that person that was doing EVERYTHING for EVERYONE and absolutely nothing for myself. But I kept my grief and sadness a secret because I felt that that's just what you do when you have kids to raise and a house to keep. You put those things first to be the "perfect" wife and mother. It wasn't until after talking to another mother that I realized other mom's felt the same way. Who knew?! She shared with me that she too had felt that way but that she was working to find joy in her life. She felt that by finding something that she loved and making it a priority at times made her feel refreshed and re-energized.
I was blown away by this but it made perfect sense! As I had mentioned in an earlier post we are more than moms and we had lives before children and that's great! When I am in a group of other mom's the question almost always comes of up of: "what did you do before kids?" Let's not forget the answer to that question mommas. And even though we may not be able to work outside the home, or do the things we originally loved doing, remember we are still contributing. Heck, we're doing a super hard job, but we can still hold on to a bit of ourselves in the midst of it and find something that brings us joy outside mommying.
Recently I've found joy in listening to a podcast that a fellow SAHM and dear friend of mine turned me on to. Its called "The Purposeful Home Podcast." You can find a link to these amazing Momma's website here. I truly love listening to these women. From the first podcast I felt like they were speaking to my heart in such an amazing way. In fact, their podcasts are so applicable to my own life right now that I'll probably talk about them, A LOT, as I build this blog. But they're pretty awesome so you should check them out!
I've also been able to find joy in doing "free lance" work related to my career. Granted I'm not earning an income but it reminds me that I can still do the things I love and being the best wife and mom that I can. It only took me a good long while to earn my degree so I am overjoyed to be using it a bit here and there. More on that later.
And of course, joy in blogging and talking to all you out there.
I hope you are able to find some joy in your day today and every day.
Well, the Littles are done with their quiet time so I guess that means I am done with mine. 😄
Happy Monday Sweet Momma!
-MWW
It got to the point where I was just sad. Sad that I had become someone totally different than I used to be. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE our children with every fiber of my being and even when going grocery shopping or running errands I couldn't wait to get home to them because I just missed them. But I was also missing "joy." Joy that was easily washed away when all three were wanting held at once, or the dog was needing fed, or the bathrooms were needing tended to. I had become that person that was doing EVERYTHING for EVERYONE and absolutely nothing for myself. But I kept my grief and sadness a secret because I felt that that's just what you do when you have kids to raise and a house to keep. You put those things first to be the "perfect" wife and mother. It wasn't until after talking to another mother that I realized other mom's felt the same way. Who knew?! She shared with me that she too had felt that way but that she was working to find joy in her life. She felt that by finding something that she loved and making it a priority at times made her feel refreshed and re-energized.
I was blown away by this but it made perfect sense! As I had mentioned in an earlier post we are more than moms and we had lives before children and that's great! When I am in a group of other mom's the question almost always comes of up of: "what did you do before kids?" Let's not forget the answer to that question mommas. And even though we may not be able to work outside the home, or do the things we originally loved doing, remember we are still contributing. Heck, we're doing a super hard job, but we can still hold on to a bit of ourselves in the midst of it and find something that brings us joy outside mommying.
Recently I've found joy in listening to a podcast that a fellow SAHM and dear friend of mine turned me on to. Its called "The Purposeful Home Podcast." You can find a link to these amazing Momma's website here. I truly love listening to these women. From the first podcast I felt like they were speaking to my heart in such an amazing way. In fact, their podcasts are so applicable to my own life right now that I'll probably talk about them, A LOT, as I build this blog. But they're pretty awesome so you should check them out!
I've also been able to find joy in doing "free lance" work related to my career. Granted I'm not earning an income but it reminds me that I can still do the things I love and being the best wife and mom that I can. It only took me a good long while to earn my degree so I am overjoyed to be using it a bit here and there. More on that later.
And of course, joy in blogging and talking to all you out there.
I hope you are able to find some joy in your day today and every day.
Well, the Littles are done with their quiet time so I guess that means I am done with mine. 😄
Happy Monday Sweet Momma!
-MWW
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